A depth so deep into my grief.
I’ve been feeling down lately, missing those who aren’t with me. Just as I was getting used to my sister and her kids being far away, my other sister migrated to a distant land with her family. Then I’d fondly remember my brother in the UK whom I last saw 8 years ago. I wish I could meet up with him, so much has changed. I also miss my friends who are away and some, out of reach. May Allah protect them all.
Of course, I’d be advised to bear these situations with patience and alhamdulillah, He has given me some strength to deal with all this. Indeed all I need to remember is that, as a dear friend pointed out before, the void in the heart can only be filled with the remembrance of Allah.
I’ve learnt that the way to treat your heart is to remember Allah in the very context of the situation. That is, reflect upon what has happened and see the blessings in disguise. Play it out in your head, draw up the reasons that make it the best it could have been. When you know the true wisdom behind the situation, it makes it that much easier to accept Qadr.
The second part to it is to complain only to Allah. The complaint to another person is futile not only because the person can hardly bring any comfort to you… but because the complaint to humans often leads to inactivity. Whoever said bearing with patience means to passively sit without any action whatsoever?
Next, be thankful, be thankful, be thankful. It’s a simple equation. You show thanks by worshipping Allah. And with so many ways…
Finally, the du’as (usually the endnote of complaints) to Allah - hold on fast to them. Grip them like they’re the only thing that can save you from falling 100 storeys straight off a building. To remember that Allah answers our calls to Him, our needy requests of Him, helps a lot in soothing our hearts. To have faith in Him that only He can help us is key to filling that void in the heart.
We sometimes forget, that’s all. So this is the reminder to myself first, then to whoever sweet enough to read this page. Jazakum Allahu khair.
In the end, this depression stage? It’s all overrated. Get over it. ;-)
Jazaakillaah :)
That was ace :)